Hello guys,
I believe many of you are beginning to get familiar with the writing side of me unlike the fashion side that seems to be the dominate part of my life.
Today, I seek to address a crucial topic that many people in our generation are beginning to take for granted. Our REALITY. We live in an age and time where gross attention is focused on public image. An age where life is largely driven on the basis of public opinion. An age where individual status on social media has become a basis for judging progress and success. A time when business seminars place branding and packaging above delivery and integrity. Never in the history has the makeup industry enjoyed such massive patronage like now.
I, therefore, put to us that we are beginning to neglect the needful which is our reality. Why do we make our businesses look so good on Facebook and Instagram and yet, consistently fail to deliver the elaborate promises we make? Why do we give people an impression that we are rich and yet our account balances are shedding terrible tears of blood? Why do our ladies invest so much in trying to look like what they are not?
I understand that we live in a society that mounts pressure on us to prove that we are not failures. So, we are constantly trying to boost our public image at the expense of personal damage. However, we must begin to strike a balance.
I remember the cold feeling that usually runs through my body when people called me MOG and there I was yielding to the bondage of porn. Thank God, JESUS changed my reality. If you are currently in this kind of mess, I want you to know that God loves you but He wants that MOG to be your reality.
At what point did expensive gadgets become a standard for defining class?
Where did we learn this from?
Personally, I am a lover of good things but I also understand that there is a place of appropriate timing. I bought my first most expensive phone few weeks ago because my business had gotten to a point where I couldn’t afford to take blur pictures of our products at DAMSCO. Before then, I wouldn’t imagine myself spending such on a phone considering that I had a business to grow. My worth is not in my kind of gadget. If your expensive gadget does not aid at increasing your value, you do not need it for now.
Who taught us that pre wedding shoot is a prerequisite for marriage? Do not get me wrong, there is nothing wrong in this because even I myself have great plans for this. However, the priority given to it and other pre wedding activities is where the problem lies. It is, therefore, not surprising that in our age more marriages have crashed and will still crash because we spend so much time and energy investing in what we want people to see, how we want people to feel and what we want people to say; while very little or no time at all is invested in building the post wedding activities.
Folks, our reality is core. We can’t afford to live based on public opinion. We can’t continue to struggle to speak with a British accent just because we want our friends to see us as “BUTTI”. You don’t have to avoid speaking in your local dialect just to prove you are TUSH, only to go back home and start blasting in your native language. I once heard a man say “don’t just look rich”, be rich. Our generation would rather prefer to be perceived as rich instead of being rich. I believe we need to begin to focus on our reality. By this, we are able to see who we really are. Then, we begin to identify were our strength and weaknesses lie. The sincerity of our reality helps us to identify things we need to develop and drop off from our lives.
The world will become a better place if we consistently accept our reality and stop being fake.
Living fake will only attract fake people, lead you to fake places and eventually destroy your life. So, ask yourself today, WHAT IS MY REALITY?
By DAMILOLA OTUFODUNRIN
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